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How we see the World

June 15, 2021
By WolfGurl PLATINUM, Not A Real Place, Indiana
WolfGurl PLATINUM, Not A Real Place, Indiana
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Favorite Quote:
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened. –Anatole France.<br /> <br /> A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself. –Josh Billings<br /> <br /> Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.- George Carlin<br /> <br /> A nation that destroys its soils destroys itself. Forests are the lungs of our land, purifying the air and giving fresh strength to our people. —Franklin D. Roosevelt<br /> <br /> Never lose. Either win, or learn. - Me


Problems. Think about this for a second. How many problems in this world are caused by differences in opinion? Most, I'd say.

We all see the world differently, and that's good. That's important. 

The trouble is our natural habit of thinking how we see things around us is the right way. That's not necessarily true.

We need to focus on what others think--even if you're sure what they're doing, or thinking, or saying is wrong. And it might be. Or... It might not.

I'm going to get to the point here.

It doesn't matter whether you and your friend have different political opinions, it matters that you listen to and try to understand what they're saying. Many people voted for Trump, and many people voted for Biden. We all think differently. If you wholeheartedly followed one idea, and your friend the opposite, there might be some tension. Why? Because you think the other person is wrong. You get angry at them for not taking your side, the "correct" side. They think they're right, and get angry that you are angry at them for having their own opinion.

So wait for just a second here. Why? Why should it matter to you? Think about it. Is it enjoyable to have tension between those close to you? No.

So just agree to disagree. Personally, I hate agreeing to disagree, and chances are you might, too. We instinctively want to keep discussing these differences in opinion, because, whether you admit it to yourself or not, it matters to us what other people think about you, and you want them to agree with you. That's why you'll probably start trying to convince your friend (Or anyone else) to agree with you, to understand why your way is the best. But this doesn't help. Your friend will just feel as if you're saying they're wrong, bad, even, to think different from you.

But that's not what this article is about. 

So agree to disagree. Or, as another suggestion... Don't be yourself. Try this as an experiment to see what I'm saying: Get a friend. Listen to your friend explaining why they belive the sky is red. (Even if they don't, and you can choose another one, but it's important that none of you actually think it's true. This is roleplay.) Think what you naturally think, "No, it's blue." Tell that to your friend. They should continue arguing they're point. Now, switch. You say the sky is red, (Or substitute), and have your friend argue against you. There, you're done. Simple.

...probably because there's no reason to do that. 

It's not like either of you will belive the sky is red after that.

Boom.

Mind blown.

...or not.

But still. You see what I mean, right?

Try my way next time a problem like this comes up, and see where it takes you. 

Then again, maybe I'm wrong and arguing it out is the best way. I'm probably just so obsessed with my idea I'll write a whole article on it saying I'm right and your wrong. Ironic.


The author's comments:

Never knew I could do something like this, I am kinda a live and let live person and I'm not possessed with arguments, but...


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on Oct. 12 2021 at 12:21 pm
CrazyCatLady6 GOLD, New Radnor, Other
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Favorite Quote:
"There would be no shadows if the sun were not shining"

@Lydiaq
wow, that must be rlly difficult, I kinda understand where u r coming from, I wrk in a very classical- type bookshop... and the amount of creaky, old men who come in and ask to c my 'superior' is INFURIATING... like, excuse me I'm behind the counter, just bc I'm a young girl doesn't mean I'm not capable! But luckily I only have 2 deal with that on the weekends, I hope you find a good outlet :))

on Aug. 2 2021 at 7:51 pm
WolfGurl PLATINUM, Not A Real Place, Indiana
20 articles 5 photos 177 comments

Favorite Quote:
Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened. –Anatole France.<br /> <br /> A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself. –Josh Billings<br /> <br /> Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.- George Carlin<br /> <br /> A nation that destroys its soils destroys itself. Forests are the lungs of our land, purifying the air and giving fresh strength to our people. —Franklin D. Roosevelt<br /> <br /> Never lose. Either win, or learn. - Me

@Lydiaq

I know, it's so hard!

But I hope things can get better

Best wishes

Lydiaq ELITE said...
on Jul. 31 2021 at 9:56 pm
Lydiaq ELITE, Somonauk, Illinois
179 articles 54 photos 1026 comments

Favorite Quote:
The universe must be a teenage girl. So much darkness, so many stars.<br /> --me

This is my life now. I am so sick of it, so sick of feeling this way i could die.

Lydiaq ELITE said...
on Jul. 31 2021 at 9:56 pm
Lydiaq ELITE, Somonauk, Illinois
179 articles 54 photos 1026 comments

Favorite Quote:
The universe must be a teenage girl. So much darkness, so many stars.<br /> --me

If a person is scornful or sarcastic when you slip up and share your opinion--especially if he is an authority figure and can pull the "don't rebuke me, I am your elder" card--and then you have to hide your true self and act like everything's fine, and you have to live with this bitterness month after month with no outlet (because saying you're angry isn't being submissive to authority), then you start screaming and mouthing off in your deepest heart, and it's only a matter of time before the lid blows off the boiling pot.