Jennifer Weiner once said, "divorce isn't such a tragedy, a tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage." Overcoming hard times in your life isn't easy, but sometimes it's for the best. In my case divorce was a good thing because I get to have two loving step parents. Not everybody can say that from their parents splitting up they have step parents that care, have two half siblings, and have two step siblings. I honestly couldn't imagine my life right now with my parents together because I am so used to them being divorced. People often ask me if I want my parents back together or what changes I have made to my life. Those are tough questions to answer because I have lived with them split up for ten and a half years so I don't know what changes I have made to my life. Since my life has been like this forever, I don't know what changes I have made. My life has been hard because my parents are divorced, but I always found a way to pull through.
        My mom is laid back, so she gives me a long leash and trusts that I will not ruin it for myself. Although my mom is laid back, she is uptight about certain conditions. As I go to hang out with my friends or go to a sporting event, I am pledged to text her and tell her what I’m performing, and she trusts me to make the right decisions. If she comes to find out that I formed a problem, I am one-hundred percent responsible for my decisions. My mom always says “school work, before sports”, because schoolwork is more important although I love sports. Even though my mom and I don’t always get along, we have our enjoyable moments. I sense vibes that my mom and step dad love me and are there for me when I want to talk about things. As I go between two houses, I know how much all of my parents can tolerate. I learned that my step dad (Ken) understands how I think, since he has two kids that are older than me. He went through the middle school and high school stage before so he understands.
     Although I’m not always with my dad, he still pushes me to be the best I can be. As a sport starts up for me, he will push me and help me get better because he wants me to be the best that I can be. But something about my dad's house I don’t agree with. During the summer when I had to pack up my stuff and head to my dads', I wouldn’t want to go. It's not like I don’t have a good life there but I feel so distant, because we as a family do nothing. Especially during the summer when I could be with my friends, but instead I’m sitting inside watching tv with my brother and sister. My friends have informed me that it is very distinct that I act different at my moms than my dads. According to Jenna Wi, I operate like I’m depressed and don’t want to do anything. I feel that this is true because I feel more inclosed at my dads. Our household very rarely does any family activities together, and that is one of the huge differences between moms and dads. Although my step mom Lindsay and I get along we don’t have a stable connection. A key point in my life where Lindsay (my stepmom) knew that I was growing up and somehow that connected us more. But that strong relationship didn't last as long as I wanted it to.
    Although I do not remember the time when my parents got divorced, I remember that they are divorced everyday. I honestly don't know what my life would be like if they were still together. I overcame this at a very young age, and it has affected my everyday life. It has made me the person that I am today, because of all the responsibilities I have to face. Ever since I went to school I have to be exceptional at being organized and taking responsibility for my school work. I have learned to be very good at it, because I have to take school work back and forth. For instance keeping track of my science or history book is a perfect example. I still have a few bumps in the road remembering things, but that normal because nobody is perfect. I remember when I was eight I asked my mom about the divorce and she said it was something that needed to happen because my dad wasn't around the house very much. Since he wasn't around, I would ask about him and my mom didn't know the right answer to that.
    Having my mom and dad split up made me strive for the best. Overcoming not seeing both my parents was definitely hard but I learned that it was the best for them. The thought of them being together and not happy and fighting all the time is a terrible thought. Children shouldn't be around bad environments when they are growing up because it says that it is okay to act that way. Although it was hard, I overcame it because I still get to see them an equal amount of time, and any body can do it like I did.