I’m sure that everyone on the face of the earth could agree that mean people are irritating, but it’s the thing that most people don’t realize that makes this a pet peeve to me. Mean people don’t bother me a bit, but mean people who disguise themselves as nice people bother me a whole lot.

This is something that I have dealt with on a personal level. There was a person in my life that I was once a friend of… I was close with her; I knew her personality well. A few years back we had a falling out and things went badly. Since then, there has been tension between us. I’m an observant person and I see how she acts towards other people and how she responds towards certain situations. She will act nice to certain people for her advantage, whether it is to fit in with the “cool kids” so she has status or to get someone to do something for her, it all comes down to her getting what she wants.

To narrow things down, I’ve seen her act in a very rude way towards my friend, and in a different situation she was super nice to that same person, but ended up getting something she wanted. She will tell anyone whatever they want to hear, just to make “friends” and get on their good side. I know it’s all show and not sincere because she does this for ulterior motives. When you think you are invested in a sincere relationship and then find out that the person you thought you were friends with was only acting like they were your friend for their own personal gains, it’s heart wrenching. It sucks to be at the receiving end of that.

She still tries talking to me even though we are not friends anymore. She tries to get information about what is going on in my life, (not like it’s any of her business) she tries to make small talk and kiss up to me by giving shallow compliments about my family or myself. To be quite honest, it is extremely bothersome, I know what kind of person she is and I know when she is acting or disguising herself as a nice person, when in reality she is not. If you were really close with someone and know how they really are behind closed doors, and then see them act completely different in public, it will bother you too. I guarantee it.

Maybe not everyone has been in the exact same situation I have been in, but I’m sure they know what it is like to have someone they know act like a nice person, when that’s really not who they are. This is probably my biggest pet peeve because I see it so much and I wish it would go away. There isn’t much of a solution except maybe just those people stopping… But let’s be realistic, we all know that’s a slim chance of happening. All we can do is pray for them and show them kindness, and maybe one by one over time they will change.