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The Truth behind Scandalous Shoulders

October 7, 2019
By bobbytunney BRONZE, Chicago, Illinois
bobbytunney BRONZE, Chicago, Illinois
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Dress codes are seen to the elderly and higher up’s in the educational system as respectable, modest, and necessary because to them it hinders others education around them. Specifically talking about hindering BOY’s education, and the dress code only being applicable to women because of what they wear. No off the shoulder, bras must be worn, fingertip length shorts, even jeans with rips are considered “unprofessional”. While in a school setting if you were to wear something along those lines that even just showed the world a SLIVER of your skin sometimes, then you would immediately be approached by a teacher, hall monitor, dean, etc.. ( sometimes even staff that you have never even seen nor had a conversation with!) and there first remark will be that of how you are dressed and how “unprofessional” you are presenting yourself. Which immediately is sexualizing and victimizing the girl, making her overly uncomfortable with herself and what she decides to wear from now on.

Now let me address the elephant in the room by saying that yes, I am a male speaking on behalf of females, but it is in a just way. I have witnessed countless cases of my sisters coming home and complaining about their frustration to my parents regarding the situation of dress codes and how it made them feel. I also have friends in my graduating class that have expressed the same emotions, which was adding fuel to the fire about the subject from their pure frustration. It also diminishes me as a male, by indicating that men cannot control their impulses to the point where their education is at stake, labeling me along with those creeps who actually get a kick out of some shoulders. A Lot of higher ups in education are so used to the normalization of the dress code policy that they even get snarky and UNPROFESSIONAL on their behalf by how they address the girls and the clothing “issue”, basically labeling them as whores or saying that their main focus is getting a males attention, but at the end of the day it should be how they think as women compared to how they look.

Dating back to the early 1990’s, women didn’t have to wear bras nor were they forced to in any kind of setting, contradicting to the policies we have in schools nowadays forcing girls to wear bras no matter how uncomfortable they can be. There was a case in Maryland, in which a teacher forced a middle school female student to cover all the rips in her jeans with duct tape. In doing so, they never contacted the parents in any way to even offer to bring a change of clothes (not that she needed it) or to at least let them know that they were covering their own daughter with duct tape, which is ultimately diminishing mentally. 

These instances, and many more showing how  undeeming, diminishing, and out dated dress codes are in high schools. Since the beginning of middle school, our education system instilled in us that girls weren't allowed to do or wear this or that and the only thing that applied to us boys was that we were restricted from wearing anything with profane graphics. As a result, this seems to have created the start of fostering male entitlement, giving them the atmosphere that they are in control because there isn't as many physical restrictions. Instead of making young women feel bad for the body they got, maybe teaching our sons to keep it in their pants and stop is the better approach. The counter hand argument about how hormones contribute to those rules and why we have them, in my opinion, is utterly idiotic and impulsive. Hormones are raging from both genders while going through puberty, the fact is that it falls on the morals of the child and how they grew up, which must be changed to aid the lack of male’s common decency to respectfully approach a woman without objectifying them.



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on Dec. 13 2019 at 12:49 pm
SolInvictus76, Leavenworth, Indiana
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I actually agree with the school staff on this one. Schools are not for fun, but are where the next generation of leaders will be brought. We only have a few years to teach our children, so we better make it count.